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A Word on Self-Compassion
Top- Banana Republic | boyfriend jeans- Zara | sandals- Rebecca Minkoff | sunnies- Ray Ban c/o Shopbop | bag- A.P.C. | bracelet- Chloe
A Word on Self-Compassion
I wanted to write a post on positivity and how to hold on to it when life throws you a curve ball — but then I realized that I'm probably the least qualified person to do so right now. I'd like the think that I'm generally pretty positive, but I've come to realize that it's not enough to be positive when times are good; the key is to find a way to hold on to those happy vibes when things go wrong, when you feel bad about yourself, or when people let you down. Those are the moments that really matter, and that's what I want to cultivate within myself. I recently read an eye-opening book called Self Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, and the timing for doing so couldn't have been better. It equipped me for a pretty tough time I'm working through now, so while I can't exactly speak to 'positivity' at this time, here's what I've learned about self-compassion. To all my ladies who talk down to themselves, think they're not worthy of great things and generally lost the ability to love themselves along the way, this one's for you.
A Word on Self-Compassion
1. POSITIVE SELF-TALK

I don't know about you guys, but the way I used to talk to myself was just appalling — sentiments would oscillate between gems like "You stupid b**ch" when I made a mistake, and "You're a fat f**k" when I looked in the mirror... not exactly a healthy way to live or thrive. But the sad thing is many of us are less than kind to ourselves. Once I became aware of this pattern, I made a conscious effort to stop being so cruel to myself and my mental state is all the better for it. Now that's not to say you need to blow smoke up your own you-know-what, just be kind and accept yourself as you are. You're awesome and don't let anyone (and especially yourself) tell you otherwise.

A Word on Self-Compassion
2. PRACTICE MINDFULNESS

Here's the thing with negative thinking — once it starts, it's easy to snowball into something far bigger and darker than it needs to be. When we ruminate over whatever thoughts we find triggering, we lose sight of reality and cause ourselves unnecessary pain and hardship... believe me. When you start to be mindful of such thoughts, they lose their power and you can suddenly think more rationally. For instance, if I get triggered by a jealous thought, instead of letting myself spiral and get lost in it, I can simply recognize it for what it is — just a thought. It's not routed in reality and it doesn't need to be given any further attention. Honestly, it's as simple as that. When you call your thoughts out in this way, they lose their hold over you, and that was the most liberating realization for me. If you're a worrier or someone who spirals in whatever insecurities plague you, give this a try.
A Word on Self-Compassion
3. KNOW THAT YOU AREN'T ALONE

The last piece of the self-compassion puzzle I learned from the book is that you need to recognize that you aren't alone; suffering and hardships are just part of life, and everyone experiences pain at some point or another. If you don't recognize this universal truth, you risk feeling isolated by your pain, shame or whatever the case may be, and your thoughts and self-talk will take a turn for the worse. They're all interconnected, so when you can identify whatever pains you (mindfulness), just know that you're not the only person who has had this experience before, and self-soothe by speaking kindly to yourself — that's self-compassion. The best part? Apparently when you master these skills, you won't need to rely on anyone else to make you feel better, and that's a pretty powerful realization that I'm working towards actualizing for myself... who's with me?! 
A Word on Self-Compassion
Photos by Anton Atienza

A Word on Self-Compassion

Thursday, May 26, 2016
Kevin Murphy's Powder.Puff
Please excuse my recent Kevin Murphy kick, but one quick note about my new favourite thickening product — the Powder Puff. It's like a serious volume boost in a bottle, and it's the perfect antidote to second (and let's be real, third) day hair.
Kevin Murphy's Powder.Puff
A little sprinkle of the stuff onto your roots is all you need to create some serious oomph, and I'm hooked on the dry matte texture it creates through the hair — it's epic. And by whatever witchcraft, it actually seems to hold up for the majority of the day... let's just say that if there were an emoji for blown minds, now would be the time to use it.
Kevin Murphy's Powder.Puff
{ Loving the happy-face detail }
Kevin Murphy's Powder.Puff
Thanks for reading friends, and because I'm curious like a cat, what styling products are you into these days? I'm all ears! xx


Photos by Team AiF

Powder.Puff

Wednesday, May 25, 2016
How to style an oversized denim jacket
Denim jacket- Oak & Fort | turtleneck c/o Express | trousers- Zara | booties- Aldo | sunnies- Karen Walker | bag- Mackage
How to style an oversized denim jacket
How to style an oversized denim jacket
How to style an oversized denim jacket
How to style an oversized denim jacket
Photos by Anton Atienza

Perfectly Oversized

Tuesday, May 24, 2016
Easy Pastillas de Leche Recipe

Hey friends, happy Friday! While I'm away in Victoria spending time with my family, Anton thought he would share a recipe he likes to make with his fam — I hope you like it (they're perfect for any sugar addicts in the house!), and if you decide to give them a try, we would love to see... in the meantime, take it away Anton!


Hi folks! I wanted to share this simple and super sweet (!!!) recipe with all of you and Vickie... after all, sharing is caring, right? My aunt recently paid my family a visit, and during her stay, she made one of my favourite Filipino treats — Pastillas de Leche! They're a soft, milk candy delicacy that is well known and loved by many Filipinos... and now hopefully you as well! If you're interested, here's how they're made; there's nothing to 'em!

Easy Pastillas de Leche Recipe

INGREDIENTS


3 tbs. white sugar 
5 tbs. powder milk 
1 tsp. melted butter 
1 can (350ml) evaporated milk 
Easy Pastillas de Leche Recipe

DIRECTIONS


Using a non-stick pan, turn on low heat and add a can of evaporated milk. Constantly stir the milk to avoid any curdling. Gradually add three tablespoons of sugar, and continue to stir the mixture over medium-low heat for about half an hour. Scrape off any bits of milk from the sides of the pan. 

As the mixture thickens, gradually add the powdered milk a little at a time. Once the evaporated milk forms a doughy consistency, add a teaspoon of melted butter. The mixture will thicken further, at which point you're going to want to remove it from the heat and let it cool for a few minutes before transferring it to a bowl.

Grease your palms with the remaining melted butter and start forming the dough into small, cylindrical shapes. Once you've finished rolling out all the dough, coat it lightly in sugar. To avoid them hardening up, individually wrap the candies in copy or parchment paper. If you want to get super traditional, you could go one step further and wrap the Pastillas with colourful cellophane to add a decorative touch!
Easy Pastillas de Leche Recipe
And that's it! We hope you enjoyed this traditional recipe, and we'll see you all back here Monday — Happy weekending, everyone! xx


Photos by Adventures in Fashion; recipe and copy by Anton Atienza

Pastillas de Leche

Friday, May 20, 2016
Boyfriend jacket for spring
Vegan leather jacket- Oak + Fort | tank top- Calvin Klein via Urban Outfitters | culottes- Topshop | bag- Chloe | boots- Sigerson Morrison c/o Shopbop | sunnies- Celine | bandana- Ardene | bracelet- Chloe 
Chloe Faye
Boyfriend jacket for spring
Boyfriend jacket for spring
Boyfriend jacket for spring
Boyfriend jacket for spring
Boyfriend jacket for spring
If there's one thing I love, it's a good oversized piece — basically anything with the term 'boyfriend' in its name is a go in my books. That's probably why I love this gigantic vegan leather jacket so much; it's one-size-fits-all if you can believe it (Anton has it in black!), and I'm so in love with how the exaggerated silhouette drapes over clothing — it's a thing of beauty. Not to mention its powder blue hue, which has spring written all over it... hubba hubba. Prepare to see a lot of this puppy in the months to come. xx


Photos by Anton Atienza

Boyfriend Jacket

Thursday, May 19, 2016
Whenever I travel, one of three things always seems to happen: My either skin gets dry, looks super dull, or erupts in breakouts. Sometimes all three at once if I'm super lucky. So over time I've built a little trio of skincare essentials to tackle any issues that may come up while I'm away from the comforts of home and my beauty stash. Hey, a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. So with that said, here are my tried and true skin savers for each concern while on the road — hope this is helpful!


ISSUE 1: DRY SKIN 

Pura Lolita Face Drops — I love this serum because it's natural, locally made, and super restorative as far as hydration is concerned. Any sign of dry patches and I immediately reach for this stuff; it's seriously magic in a bottle. Probably something to do with all the wonder-ingredients its packed with, like rose geranium, lavender, almond oil, Vitamin C— the list goes on.


ISSUE 2: DULL COMPLEXION 

Mario Badescu Super Collagen Mask — Whenever my face could use a little pep, Mario is always my go-to guy; he knows what's up, especially when it comes to this mask in particular. The collagen helps plump up the overall look of the skin, and when you wash it off, you're left with a rejuvenated, more vibrant-looking complexion. It's good stuff.

ISSUE 3: BREAKOUTS 

Caudalie Instant Detox Mask — Last but certainly not least (and sadly, the one I reach for the most), this detox mask goes a long way towards helping keep any flareups in check both on and off the road. It's really gentle and non-striping to the skin, and the next morning after applying it my breakouts always look a hell of a lot better than they did before. Not to mention the bottle is small and super travel friendly — #JustSaying.
Photos by Adventures in Fashion

Travel Skincare Essentials

Tuesday, May 17, 2016
Spring duster
Duster + sweater- Zara (old) | denim c/o Topshop | sneakers- Rag & Bone c/o Shopbop | sunnies- Celine | bag- Chloe
Spring duster
Spring duster
Spring duster
Spring duster
Spring duster
Well well, look who it is— if it isn't Monday, and back again so soon. My feelings toward you fall somewhere in the grey/black end of the colour spectrum, which is clearly the most apathetic side (ask anyone). So as such, I give you this drab, trench coat-heavy look, whose colour palate closely mirrors that of my feelings towards you... hey, I'm just trying to be honest here Mondz (can I call you Mondz?) — don't take it so personally. xx


Photos by Lyndsey Forest

Entrenched

Monday, May 16, 2016